He maha nga waahi i roto i te ao, engari he pehea te whakahoki ki tenei ahuatanga kaore e mohiotia e te katoa. I tenei wa, he mea tika ki te ako i nga tikanga tiaki whaiaro mo te hinengaro o te tangata, no te mea ka kaha nga tangata kino ki te pahua i te hinengaro, te whakaheke whaiaro, me te manawanui whaiaro , he whakama.
Me pēhea te urupare ki te whakapehapeha?
Ko te Hinengaro e kii ana ki te whakautu ki te whakapehapeha he kino kino, engari he kino kore. Mai i te hunga e kino ana te wairua me te wairua, kaore e huna, ka hiahia koe ki te ako kia noho marie, kia taurite.
Tuatahi, me tamata koe ki te whakatau i te take ka nui ake te paanga o te tangata ki te painga o nga punga. Ko tenei pea kaore i te whakamarumaru, i te waahanga, i te waahanga, i etahi atu, me te whakatipu pai, kaore e taea te whakahoki urupare ki tetahi tangata takitahi. Hei tiaki ia koe, me tino titiro koe ki waho, he tino nui, he mea whakamiharo hoki, ka whakaarohia e tetahi o nga kaitoro e toru nga wa, ka haumaru pea te whakatika i tana kino ki taua tangata.
Ki te pai ki te paopao ki te whakapehapeha, me hiahia koe ki te hoatu ki a koe te taunga tika. He tangata ngoikore a Ham, he tangata whaikorero e kore e kaha ki te whakatutuki i ona ahuatanga , me tona taiao, me te kaha ki te whakapuaki ia ia ano i te utu o etahi atu. Whakamahia te kaitautoko korero hei tangata hauora, he mea kino, ka puta ke tana aroha, me ana ngana ki te whakaiti - ki te kata.
I te wa e tika ana te whakaerenga korero a te pouaka, "whakakakahu" he roimata o te korenga, te wehe. Ka taea e koe te whakaaro i tetahi pikitia mai i nga korero a Krylov - kei te haere mai te haina, a, ko te kuware o Moska ka rere, kaore e taea te mahi. Mena kei te korero tonu koe ki te korero - kaore koe e hiahia ki te tu ki te turanga o te kaiwhaiwhai. Hei korero i tenei keehi, me tino maia, kia marie, kia maia, me te kore e whaki ki nga kupu. Te ahuareka me te hopu i te urupare - he paanga ano hoki tenei, he mea ka whakapataritari i te hoariri ki te whakawhitiwhitiwhiti korero.
Me pēhea te urupare ki te kore o te tane me te tangata e arohaina ana?
Ko te kino o te hoa, o te hoa mahi me te kaihoko i roto i te toa kaore he ahuareka, engari he tino raruraru noa iho. Engari, ka kino te tangata e arohaina ana, he tane ranei, i roto i nga take penei ka hiahiatia te huarahi ki te whakatau i te take.
Ko te mea tino nui ki te whakatutuki i te whakawehe mai i te tangata tata rawa ko te mohio ki ona take. Ahakoa he pai tonu te tohu - ko tenei "tohu" e pa ana ki tetahi mea pai kaore e korero, me te mea pea, ka taea e tenei tangata taangata te whakaatu atu i etahi atu "tino miharo".
Tuatahi, he pai ki te whakahua i tetahi take e taea ai te whakatika. He tangata tika, ki te kaha ia i te taha tinana me te hinengaro, e hiahia ana ki te mokemoke - "haere ki tana ana". Mena ka tohe te wahine ki te raru ia ia, kaore pea ia e whakapehapeha, he mea whakahirahira ranei, a, ko te korero tuatahi ko te tangata tuatahi kia hoatu he wa ki te whakaora, engari kaore e taea te korero i te mamae o ana korero. Me mihi te tangata aroha me te tuku i tana wahine he ara pai mai i enei āhuatanga.
Ko te raruraru tawhito tuarua ko te panoni nui i roto i te tangata i muri i te wa i muri i te marena.
I tenei take, me korero tuatahi te tane, ka whakamarama ko tana whanonga he mamae (ko wai e mohio ana, kaore pea i te tino tika tana ahuareka). Mena kaore te korero i te awhina, a kei te whakarei tonu te hoa faaipoipo i tana "wahine" ki tana wahine e arohaina ana, kei te tautohetohe tonu ranei, mehemea ka wehewehea ia ki taua tangata. Ko te wehi anake o te ngaro o te whanau ka taea e te pouaka te ako, mehemea kaore tenei e puta - he wahine anake e whakaora i te wa me nga aa.