Ko te mea he wahine koe ehara i te tikanga ka taea e koe te whakaatu mai i te kupu "wahine". I etahi wa kaore e mohio ana ki a ratau, kaore hoki e whakaarohia he aha te mea he wahine, he aha nga ahuatanga he tohu mo te wahine he pai, kia whakaarohia he wahine.
Ehara i te mea he uaua tenei taiao, he pai ano, he ahuareka hoki, a he aha te ahua ake o te wahine ka korero i tenei tuhinga.
Ka whakaaro matou kia whai koe i to maatau waahi, me te whakapiri me te whakatika ano kia tutuki ai i a koe nga hiahia me nga tumanakohanga.
Me pēhea te noho hei kotiro wahine (wahine)?
- Waihangahia he raupapa e hiahia ana koe ki te tuhi: "E hiahia ana ahau kia noho hei wahine ma te mea ..." me te whakaatu i nga take me nga painga ka riro ia koe i muri i to mahi i to ahua me to whanonga.
- Na ka whai whakaaro koe ki a koe mo nga mahi hapori e mahi ana koe i roto i te ao. Na ka tohu ano hoki ia ratou. Mena i te mea tuatahi ko koe te mahi a te kaimahi wahine, he momo rereke o te rangatira wahine, ka nui ake te uaua ki a koe kia nui ake te wahine, no te mea he mahi pera koe, he mahi a te tangata. Mena he mea nui ake nga mahi a te hapori ki a koe, he mea tino nui atu tena ki a koe, no te mea i roto i enei mahi he wahine mua koe, a, ko to mahi anake ko te whakanui i tenei me te whakapakari i nga waiaro wahine.
- Hei whakatutuki i tenei whāinga, me whiriwhiri koe i te tauira. Whakaarohia ko wai hei tauira mo te waitohu mo koe, ka rite ki nga hoa pono, ki nga whetu kiriata, ki nga kaiwhakanenere ranei, kaore i te iti te maha, ka taea e koe te whiriwhiri i tetahi wahine, ara tekau ranei - kaore he mea. Te tātari i ō rātou taiao o waho me o roto, me te whakatau i nga whakaaro, he aha ratou i whakaaro ai, ko te paerewa o te wahine. Tuhia enei tohu katoa ki roto i to tuhi.
- Whakahaerehia inaianei he whakataurite mo o raatau mahinga me nga mea e tuhia ana i roto i to retaata. Mena ka whakaaro koe kaore he painga ki a koe, tuhia ki tetahi pepa motuhake, ki muri i ia mea, tuhia he aha e hiahia ana koe ki te whakawhanake i tenei kounga. Hei tauira, ki te whakaaro koe he kotiro wahine kia tino tino pai i roto i te toi o te whakawhitiwhiti korero me te kore korero, a, kei te kaha tonu koe ki te whakawhitiwhitinga, ka raruraru, ka wiri, ka waiho he otinga motuhake mo to raruraru he whakangungu motuhake. Ka ako atu koe ki a koe ehara i te ataahua me te maamaha, engari ka korero ano hoki koe mo nga tohu kore korero, i etahi wa ka korero atu i nga korero.
- Whakarongo ki to tangata. Kaore, kaore matou e whakapono ana me whai tonu koe ki te whai i ana whakahau katoa, me te wareware kei te mea tonu to korero. Tukua noa iho kia ngoikore koe, a ma te tangata e tiaki ia koe. Me hoatu he tauira maatau. Mena kei a koe he pungarehu i roto i to whare, kaua e mau ki te waahi, kaua hoki e rere ki te rapu i te parau (mehemea, kaore he take urupare), engari korero atu ki to hoa aroha. A, mehemea ka whakatauhia e ia mehemea ka whakapai ake ia ia ia, ka meinga ranei he pihikete. I muri i nga mea katoa, ki te mahi koe i te ahuatanga tuatahi, na, tuatahi, ka ngoikore koe i to hoa aroha. Ka whakaarohia e ia tetahi mea penei: "He aha i hiahia ai ahau ki a ia mehemea ka pai tana mahi ki a au?".
Ko te tuarua, kei te mahi koe i te mahi a te tangata, kaore e nui ake te wahine. - Na, ko te whakamutunga, okioki atu. Ko te moe hauora he taunaha ehara i te ataahua o waho anake, engari ano hoki i te ahua o te hinengaro hinengaro e tika ana mo te wahine pono. Whakamātauria kia moe i te iti rawa i te 8 haora i te ra, kaore hoki e moe i te moe mo nga matea o te whare (penei i te horoi i te whare, te whakarite i te kai hakari e toru, me era atu)
E tino tumanako ana matou ko ta matou tohutohu i runga i te huarahi ki te waahi atu i te wahine ka awhina ia koe ki te whakapono ki a koe ano, ka huri i to ora mo te pai ake.